Calling Ireland from Germany via ones' mobile is crazy expensive and even with a phone card it's close to a Euro/minute. For example a 5 Euro phone card will last us about 16 minutes when we call the ex's mobile. And if i call a land line on the other side of the world, for example Malaysia with 5 Euros worth of credit i can get about 300 minutes talk time.
Nuts i tell ya!
But all thanks to the wonderful world of Skype and the free phone calls via the internet, J and i are able to see Little L and BabyA every week or at least every other week. A chance to update one another of what each of us are doing. But basically a chance for Little L to see her 'Papa'. J thinks it's important that the kids see that we can all sit together in peace, which in turn can have positive effects on their development. Knowing that we're not biting each others heads off, will work to everybody's favor.
Most of the time we talk about what/how she's been doing at school or that she's learning how to swim/surf. Or sometimes she'll read us a few pages of her book. We continue to buy her German books, that way she doesn't forget her mother tongue. I am always amazed how well her English has improved and how kids are able to soak up a language so fast.
And even though we saw Little L just 3 months ago, she seems to have grown up so much! She's become quite a little lady but i guess that's what happens at that age. Every day they're changing.
Even BabyA is able to walk. Previously when we saw him he could barely stand up. He's not able to talk yet but likes to voice out whatever it is he's got going on in his head. He apparently has a bit of a temper but isn't scared of anything. It's obvious that he's super active since he's all over the place whenever we're online.
And Little L is still not liking the idea of sharing her room and being bullied - i guess that's how siblings are. But when they do get along it's really quite sweet. Here they are blowing kisses to us...
It's obvious that J misses Little L terribly and so i make sure we keep in contact regularly.
And even though he pays more than enough child support every month, nothing compares to actually interacting and being with the kids in real life. So in that sense we are really glad that the ex's boyfriend respects and treats them like his own kids.
I know J's not so comfortable with them calling the boyfriend "daddy" but that's a sacrifice he has made. And as J puts it, it's far easier on the kids to call the boyfriend "daddy" even though they're not his biological children. After all, we all want the kids to have a close-to-normal life as possible. I'm sure you know how cruel kids can be at school, they have a tendency to pick on others who are "different". But i know in J's heart he knows he'll always be their "Papa" but i guess it's still a bit sad, ya know?
So for now we may feel like we're only faces on a computer screen and the people who send presents from Germany but i guess that's the price we pay in order for everyone to move on and get on with their lives.
And let me tell you, that's heaps better than not having any contact at all.
Nuts i tell ya!
But all thanks to the wonderful world of Skype and the free phone calls via the internet, J and i are able to see Little L and BabyA every week or at least every other week. A chance to update one another of what each of us are doing. But basically a chance for Little L to see her 'Papa'. J thinks it's important that the kids see that we can all sit together in peace, which in turn can have positive effects on their development. Knowing that we're not biting each others heads off, will work to everybody's favor.
Most of the time we talk about what/how she's been doing at school or that she's learning how to swim/surf. Or sometimes she'll read us a few pages of her book. We continue to buy her German books, that way she doesn't forget her mother tongue. I am always amazed how well her English has improved and how kids are able to soak up a language so fast.
And even though we saw Little L just 3 months ago, she seems to have grown up so much! She's become quite a little lady but i guess that's what happens at that age. Every day they're changing.
Even BabyA is able to walk. Previously when we saw him he could barely stand up. He's not able to talk yet but likes to voice out whatever it is he's got going on in his head. He apparently has a bit of a temper but isn't scared of anything. It's obvious that he's super active since he's all over the place whenever we're online.
And Little L is still not liking the idea of sharing her room and being bullied - i guess that's how siblings are. But when they do get along it's really quite sweet. Here they are blowing kisses to us...
It's obvious that J misses Little L terribly and so i make sure we keep in contact regularly.
And even though he pays more than enough child support every month, nothing compares to actually interacting and being with the kids in real life. So in that sense we are really glad that the ex's boyfriend respects and treats them like his own kids.
I know J's not so comfortable with them calling the boyfriend "daddy" but that's a sacrifice he has made. And as J puts it, it's far easier on the kids to call the boyfriend "daddy" even though they're not his biological children. After all, we all want the kids to have a close-to-normal life as possible. I'm sure you know how cruel kids can be at school, they have a tendency to pick on others who are "different". But i know in J's heart he knows he'll always be their "Papa" but i guess it's still a bit sad, ya know?
So for now we may feel like we're only faces on a computer screen and the people who send presents from Germany but i guess that's the price we pay in order for everyone to move on and get on with their lives.
And let me tell you, that's heaps better than not having any contact at all.
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