Held captive in His eyes

Body language has always fascinated me. So much can be read about a persons' inner feelings and moods by first appearance. One doesn't even have to utter a single word.

I remember some time back Ekamon dragged her friend and i to some random British Council's Single and Ready to Mingle event. She thought it would be fun and perhaps we all hoped there would be a chance that there were at least SOME decent eligible bachelors left out there.

There wasn't.

I, on the other hand had convinced myself i wouldn't find anyone and i'd end up running off to some nunnery one day and i might as well live it up or if that didn't work, i'd be found dead in my 1-bedroom apartment wreaking of cat pee. Surely there was no need to be THAT dramatic but i'll admit i was attracted to the free flow and anyone whom i thought was remotely attractive ended up batting for the wrong team, if you know what i mean.

So anyway, i can't remember the speaker's name but apparently he's an "expert" in the art of reading body language, specifically the connection between the opposite sexes. It was pretty basic knowledge but overall quite entertaining. The only words of wisdom that i learnt that night was if you want to see whether someone is attracted to you, all you have to do is look at them straight into their eyes and watch their pupils dilate.

Then just this evening i found this article online;

A persons pupils get bigger when they are aroused, interested and/or receptive. If you look into his or her eyes and see those pupils growing large - it’s looking good for you. Basically big pupils (unless it’s just dark) mean a person likes what they see.

Try this experiment, and you’ll understand how immediate this effect can be. Go right now and look in the mirror at your own eyes. As you look at them, imagine a sexy man or woman you are attracted to - in whatever way would turn you on. You’ll see that your pupils get bigger in just seconds. Actually, if you love to fish, they may get big just thinking about a lake you love. Anything you like to look at can make your pupils bigger...

For the mind reading part, you can now watch for changing of pupil size to know if someone is interested in you or what you have to say. And yes, shrinking pupils generally do mean the person is not interested. Just be careful to note if light in the persons eyes is causing the shrinking pupils. [source]

Of course i didn't think much of it back then and it had been awhile since i locked eyes with anyone that i fancied. And i spent most of the free time chatting with people i already knew and being chatted up by some guy who i am assuming wanted some spanking by the way he stroked my business card. But still it was a rather enjoyable night and i stored the information in the back of my head for those rainy days.

Which then brings me to Our first night...

We sat face to face on the sofa and looked deeply into each others eyes. It was as if we were trying to telepathically read each others' thoughts but like the hunted i was immediately captivated by the size of his... pupils... Now, now, don't be dirty! I watched before me the windows of his soul blossoming in slow motion and witnessed the sliver of his iris frame it all into place. It was simply beautiful.

And that's when i knew.

A one-in-a-million chance meeting that relied so heavily on Timing and 2 paths crossing - literally. What began as an innocent long lost friendship reunion transformed itself effortlessly into the beginning of the most enriching and honest relationship that neither one of us could have envisioned.

And 4 months later we're still going strong, i would even say it's gone up a notch.

I'll admit i have not felt so adored or thought of so highly of by anyone. It's the most amazing feeling to meet someone who is on the same wave length and has similar dreams and aspirations. Finally, someone who understands and encourages me. Where conversations run like hot lava from our lips and each day we grow fonder of one another.

And i know it's a long road ahead but how can we deny our feelings when everything is so real? We are willing to wait and see. Time is on our side. It's a case of both parties who have wished for the "perfect" being - and then to admit that we have found it in each other. Crazy right?

But long distance relationships are definitely not for the faint hearted. Communication, honesty and respect is vital amongst other things. And although we live on either sides of the world from one another and this is only the beginning, there is evidence that there is an undenying yearning to be with one another and i look forward to what my future has in store for me.